Many parents have called us asking for guidance about how to help children cope with terrorism such as the bombing of the World Trade Centers in New York that occurred on Sept. 11th, 2001. In this special edition of the Child Anxiety Newsletter, we provide some suggestions to parents and caregivers:

1. Set aside specific time to talk with your child/children about what happened rather than having them watch horrifying images on television. Depending on the age of the child, parents will have to discern how much information is necessary for children to know. Although it is difficult to explain an event of such horrifying magnitude to children, it is important that parents consider the developmental level of children before giving them information that they may not be able to handle or understand.

2. It is important to continue to give children feelings of safety. For example, explain to kids that they are safe and try your best to continue to provide routine and structure in your homes for your children as much as possible.

3. Let children know that it is perfectly natural to express emotions of sadness, etc. about the tragedies that occurred. Children may express their feelings in different ways. Some children may cry, some may become quiet, some may choose to write about their feelings, and others may choose to talk with parents/friends. Encourage children to let out their feelings about the events in healthy ways, and give them some ideas of healthy ways to express their feelings.

4. Encourage open communication between yourself and your children.

5. Children's reactions to these events may change over time. Some kids may start out feeling shocked, and then may feel tearful or sad or angry. Reassure children that it is natural to have these feelings.

6. It may be a good idea to let children know that they should feel confident that all the adults in charge are taking care of this situation, and that kids need to let adults have that responsibility. If children really feel like they want to do something to help, you might let them know that one of the best ways they can help is by being extra kind to classmates and friends, as hate and anger only lead to bad things. Rather, positive energy and kindness goes a long way to make our country strong. Kids can often do a wonderful job of helping others and being kind, and kids also may feel better knowing that they are helping in some way.

7. If children have experienced loss through a terrorist event, it may be important to get some emergency relief at a nearby agency, see a psychologist/social worker/grief counselor. Parents might help children to process these feelings of sadness as well. Parents should also seek professional help for themselves if they are grieving.

8. Sometimes children feel more secure having a "family plan" in case of any emergency. Be sure children know this plan, know who to call, etc. This helps children feel more in control.

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